Madonna makes 50 look hot. She’s hotter now than she was at 20 something. But for a woman that’s been with a number of men and can have any man she wants, she knows nothing about us. I saw an interview after her divorce from Guy Ritchie, and she said she was sick of emotionally unavailable men. Then I thought of her song, Express Yourself, one of my favorites because it’s a hot track with a great video, but its dead wrong. The verse in the song: “Don’t go for second best baby, put your love to the test, you know you’ve got to make him express how he feels, then you’ll know your love is real.” So she thinks that if we’re made to express our emotions verbally, that’s the only way to know our love is real. Bullshit. Men are not built that way. Some wimpy, emotionally expressive guy that cries with you over chick flicks and writes you poetry will be the first guy you drop for the biker that only takes you to his place for sex, hardly calls you, and has a prison record.

Don’t get me wrong. Real men have no problem telling you that we love you. Most of us are actually quite comfortable letting you know this if we truly feel that way about you. However, don’t expect us to verbally gush over you constantly. When a man lets you know how he feels, you should let his words have a long shelf life. Men show their love by protecting and providing for you and their family. Long ago we were expected to hunt, give you healthy children, and defend our village and home to the death. That was our purpose and the way we expressed our bond to our families. It’s not much different today. If we go to work and provide for our families, help raise our children, and fulfill our responsibilities as the man of the household, that’s love. Men express our love through actions more so than words.

The need to hear over and over how we feel about you and our relationship grinds on our nerves and is more likely based out of your insecurity than is something we’ve not done or said. Women often take quiet periods where emotions are not verbally expressed as a sign of trouble. We think everything is going great, then you blind side us with the worst question you can ask a man, “Where is this going?” A lack of verbal emotional expression is not necessarily a sign of a relationship in distress. If we like to spend time with you, care about your well being, want the best for you, and encourage you in everything you do, please take that as a sign of deep affection. Some women need to take a lesson from old married couples. Have you ever seen these people? They act as though they can read each other’s minds, and all the words that can be said have already been spoken. The only thing that matters to these couples is that the other is present, supportive, and a good friend. Perhaps Madonna will understand this by age 60 or 70 if she has a relationship that lasts for more than just a few years.